Stay on the Same Page, Even If It’s Hard

“Unity is strength… when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved.”

– Mattie Stepanek

The Kid Sees Everything
You and your co-parent are a team. Even if you’re divorced. Even if you can’t stand each other’s Spotify playlists. Even if you disagree on literally everything else. Because parenting isn’t a solo sport. It’s a co-op mission with a very observant, sponge-brained audience.

The kid doesn’t care who bought the soccer cleats or who forgot it was picture day. What they see is whether you two are aligned, or whether there’s a crack in the foundation they now have to tiptoe across. And no kid should be walking on eggshells.

You’re not agreeing because you’re besties. You’re aligning because you’re leaders.

You can work it out in private. Argue via text. Whisper-fight over the dishes. But when you’re in front of the kid? Unified front. Always.

Hard Conversations Are Part of the Job
There will be disagreements. Curfews, screen time, sugar intake, bedtime routines — you’re not going to be on the same page 100% of the time. That’s fine. But hash it out before you deliver a verdict.

Confused kids don’t feel safe. If Mom says one thing and Dad says another, they start managing you instead of being managed. That’s how you end up with a 7-year-old lawyer at the kitchen table.

Want to see how powerful teamwork can be in co-parenting? This Divorce & Children article lays it out clearly: it’s not about being perfect — it’s about being consistent, civil, and committed to your kid.

Not About Being Right — It’s About Raising Right
When it gets tough, remind yourself: this isn’t about your ego. This is about what’s best for your child. Check out this book that thousands of parents swear by: Co-Parenting Works! by Tammy Daughtry.

Kids thrive when the adults in their life are predictable, stable, and fair. Even if you’re gritting your teeth behind a smile, they’ll feel the security of your unity. That’s what matters.